Book of Face: Ch. 4, Verses 77-83
“I hate men who are afraid of women’s strength.” – Anaïs Nin
So I have had this idea floating through my head to write about women.
Because I love them. Because they are beautiful.
And I don’t just mean in the “I wanna sleep with them” sorta way (although there is that). I mean it in the way that they are amazing creatures, and they have an effect upon my being (and I don’t just mean a hard-on). They have this ability of making me open up in a different sort of way. They allow me to express the feminine aspect of my being.
All humans contain within themselves both masculine and feminine energies. The sad thing in our world today (and throughout history) is that we are are classified as a gender and are discouraged (or outright forbidden) from displaying the aspects of the other gender.
Men are men, women are women. And that’s just the way it is.
Men are left-brain dominated, rational beings, while women are right-brain dominated, emotional and inherently irrational beings. At least that’s what we’ve been told.I take issue with this assessment. I have met men that are more effeminate than many women, and women who are more masculine than many men.
What does that tell us? Well probably most importantly that the genitals you happened to be born with are not the most important indicator of who you are or how you act.
But women have babies and men don’t!
This is true, but does someone’s ability (or inability) to have children determine their fitness to, let’s say, be a CEO, an astrophysicist, or the president, or really any other occupation? No it does not.
There is no inherent deficiencies in females that prevent them from thinking intelligently or rationally. There is nothing in the mental faculties of the female gender that predispose them to doing any of these jobs at a lower level than men. Yet still women earn less than their male counterparts.
Women with a graduate degree earn 96% of males’ wages with the same education.
With a bachelor’s degree – 89%
Trade certificate or apprenticeship – 65%
No high school diploma – 67%
We like to say that we have attained gender equality. But we obviously have not. We have made strides in the right direction but there’s still a ways to go.
Where does this come from?
Since I’ve been writing with a biblical theme I figured I’d look up some inspirational bible verses about women to add to this post. I asked the almighty google to give me the answers I was seeking. As always it did. I came upon several collections of verses with names like “encouraging bible verses for women” or “beautiful bible verses for women.” I read them…
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.”
“And the woman who is unmarried, and the virgin, is concerned about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and spirit; but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how she may please her husband.”
(And these don’t even touch on the whole Genesis / Adam & Eve, woman are the secondary creation, subservient to men, eaters of the apple, the reason for us being cast out of the garden of eden, and basically the cause of all evil in the world -thing that wraps up the whole creation myth) (I always had a suspicion that women were the bride of satan / evil incarnate, and lo and behold there’s “proof”)
Basically the bible says, a good wife is the best a woman can be.
This is one of the reasons I take issue with the bible (Dear god! Is he really gonna take on the bible?! The divine word of Jesus?!… well not really Jesus, I mean Jesus didn’t actually write the bible… and neither did his apostles…. or anyone that knew him… or anyone who actually lived in that period of time… or the subsequent 300 years…. but I mean it’s pretty much what he said…. right?)
My issue is that the bible promotes a patriarchal society, where men rule, and women do our laundry. But that just makes sense cause women are better adapted to washing clothes. I mean since men are taller on average it’s far too awkward for us to reach down and empty the lint trap, and women’s small hands make them better designed to fold the laundry afterwards. It’s science!
Oh yeah and women’s brains are approximately 1/3 the size of men’s (see “Totally bull shit facts: Ch.1, Vrs 3”) and that makes them incapable of higher order reasoning that is required to, let’s say, use a computer. They can, however, answer a phone, making them great receptionists (as long as the phone doesn’t have too many buttons).
Well, you say, it’s how you interpret the bible, not the actual words.
Let’s take a more recent example – former baptist minister, and founder & chairman for the christian broadcasting corporation, Mr. Pat Robertson…
“Feminism is a socialist, anti-family, political movement that encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism and become lesbians.”
Well that sounds like sound logic to me, if women try to be equal to men then the whole fabric of space / time begins to collapse and we get sucked into a black hole. Science and religion finally agree on something. Oh happy day!
Now I’m not solely blaming gender inequality on patriarchal religions, I mean have you read cosmopolitan?
“50 ways to get a guy” / “30 reasons to wear makeup” / “12 tricks to tickle his fancy” / “5 sure-fire tips to find the man of your dreams”
Hmmm… there seems to be a trend here.
Basically ladies, your sole purpose in life is to get a man. And if you don’t, you fail… at life.
I mean what else do you have to offer society? Your intellect, ability, insight, talent or your unique view of the world? Yeah sure, that’d be the day!
I personally believe cosmopolitan may be one of the most detrimental publications to women’s emotional health. It constantly bombards us with unrealistic images of “beauty.” The images are airbrushed and photo shopped to unreal proportions. Their waists are unnaturally small and their breasts unnaturally big. It’s a lie. But women are told that they can achieve this physique by purchasing the products advertised. Such & such cream, or concealer, or diet product, or perfume (How do physical attributes relate to smell?? But if you wear chanel #5 you’ll be as beautiful as Such & such model).
There’s a great quote by Cindy Crawford – “I wish I looked like Cindy Crawford.”
These images are not “real” people, just like barbie dolls. Barbie would be dead from malnutrition if she were real. Let’s be like her!… Dead.
What we have to realize is that human beings come in various shapes and sizes. Humans have adapted to the various regions and climates that we have traditionally lived in. Peoples from more northern (and colder) climates have an adaptation to keep more fat in their cells to keep them warm, so they are more inclined to convert food energy into fat (stored energy). Other peoples are adapted to produce more melanin (skin pigment) to protect them from UV rays in more sunny environments. We have to see these adaptations as beautiful in their own way. Our diversity is what has allowed us to survive in all the varied environments of the Earth.
The goal is to be healthy, and that is truly beautiful.
So we live in a just and equitable society where all people have the same access to advancement and wealth, and freedom, and self-worth, and so on. Unless you have a uterus… in that case get your ass back in the kitchen and make me a sammich!
Now there’s the age old argument that women give birth and therefore should stay at home and raise the children. Fair enough, but other than the ability to lactate what makes a woman more capable or better suited to raise a child?
Well they have motherly tendencies!
And what? The father has no paternal tendencies? Are you telling me that a father has any less love for his children? Or has no desire to be there for them or to be involved in raising them into the people they will one day become?
I call shenanigans!
When my children are born I wanna be there to raise them, I wanna be part of their life, not just some guy who shows up from time to time.
I will love them just as much as their mother because they are a part of me as well. They will be small versions of us.
So am I advocating a total role reversal?
Of course not. I think both parents need to be involved in child rearing, it gives balance and stability.
But who’s gonna bring home the bacon!
Well that is a whole topic that I can discuss at greater length in the future.
For now, suffice to say both parents, and the community at large.
So what is the point in all this? What’s the meaning?
Well I’ll try to express it from a personal level.
I, as a heterosexual male, am attracted physically to women. But I am also mentally attracted to them as well. Some of the most intelligent and insightful people I know are women. Some of my closest friends are women. And even though I am attracted to them I don’t have to reduce our friendship to me trying to get into their pants. Men and women can be friends, can share ideas, can enlighten one another. But it seems we have a tendency to segregate upon the lines of sex, like it’s the #1 attribute that defines us. Boys do boy things, girls do girl things. Girls wear pink and boys wear blue. These are gender roles put upon us by societal “norms.” But these “norms” come from a history of patriarchy and repression of women, and ultimately a repression of the feminine aspect that lives in each of us. And we therefore are made incomplete.
Why? Where’s the sense in patriarchy?
Because balanced and enlightened people think for themselves. They stop following heard mentality. They stop being cattle and become true human beings.
This is a scary concept for anyone who wishes to control you, to make you act in their best interest and not your own.
By tearing down patriarchy we put the power back in the hands of the individual, which allows us to once again control our own lives and destinies.
But these are not things that have to be done alone. We can have partners.
So when I look for a partner I don’t look for someone to compensate for an inadequacy within myself. I seek someone who compliments my being. I seek someone who is also a whole individual, someone who is in touch with both aspects of their being, who embraces who they are. Someone strong in themselves. Someone who encourages me, and someone who I encourage in return. And together we will both be better humans.
“The War on Men Through the Degradation of Woman”
“How is man to recognize his full self, his full power through the eyes of an incomplete woman? The woman who has been stripped of Goddess recognition and diminished to a big ass and full breast for physical comfort only. The woman who has been silenced so she may forget her spiritual essence because her words stir too much thought outside of the pleasure space. The woman who has been diminished to covering all that rots inside of her with weaves and red bottom shoes.I am sure the men, who restructured our societies from cultures that honored woman, had no idea of the outcome. They had no idea that eventually, even men would render themselves empty and longing for meaning, depth and connection.
There is a deep sadness when I witness a man that can’t recognize the emptiness he feels when he objectifies himself as a bank and truly believes he can buy love with things and status. It is painful to witness the betrayal when a woman takes him up on that offer.
He doesn’t recognize that the [creation] of a half woman has contributed to his repressed anger and frustration of feeling he is not enough. He then may love no woman or keep many half women as his prize.
He doesn’t recognize that it’s his submersion in the imbalanced warrior culture, where violence is the means of getting respect and power, as the reason he can break the face of the woman who bore him 4 four children.
When woman is lost, so is man. The truth is, woman is the window to a man’s heart and a man’s heart is the gateway to his soul.
Power and control will NEVER out weigh love.
May we all find our way.”