Book of Face: Ch. 4, Verses 30-33
1. To reprove gently but earnestly.
2. To counsel (another) against something to be avoided; caution.
It is my usual practice in life is to follow the saying “judge not lest ye be judged.” I believe this statement is a good one. We all have faults, myself included, so as a rule of thumb I refrain from pointing out faults in others. Most times this is a good idea. But what if for instance you are with a friend, a friend you care about and respect, but said friend is being a douche (it happens to the best of us). Do you;
A) refrain from saying anything because you to can be a douche at times
B) Explain kindly and with respect that they are being a douche in the hopes that they will stop, now and in the future
C) punch them in the face
Admonishment and judgement are not the same thing. Judgement is a holier than thou attitude, admonishment is trying to help them improve themselves and warn them against wrong action.
I fuck up. I fuck up on a regular basis. Do you watch me fuck up and do nothing or do your say “hey dude, you fucked up, here’s what you can do to not do it again”?
I am going to change my practice of keeping quiet. I am going to kindly say, and say it with love, you screwed up, you’re being a douche, let’s try to make sure this doesn’t continue to happen.
I also ask that others try and help me to improve myself. Call me out on my shit (kindly of course). This concept scares me because there may be ways that I don’t realize I screw up, I may take a blow to my ego, I may even cry a little bit (please be gentle, I’m very sensitive).
Let’s kindly discuss our faults, work on improving them, maybe they’re not really faults at all, just differing view-points. Let’s work together and find out. Let’s be better humans.
Thank you and Namaste.